As human beings, we are super skilled at judging. Everything from how a another person looks, sounds, the political situation where you live, religion, sport – you name it. Everyone has an opinion and a good very many will do almost anything to defend their point of view to the death. We’ve all come across those in Network Marketing haven’t we? We are running a ponzi pyramid scheme and they’re reporting us to whomever they actually think is going to act on their complaint. It’s probably the single biggest divider among us. Just think about your thoughts on the Pandemic and others who have differing points of view if you don’t believe it’s harmful. If nothing else, the Pandemic has been supremely divisive. So how do you suspend judgement and stay completely and totally open? Read on …
When did we start learning that anything that was different to us was wrong? I mean I notice this in my youngest son. He’s 7 and just loves everyone in his class – that is nice to him of course. Lol He is amongst a significantly diverse community – kids’ from all sort of different backgrounds and cultures and I personally think it’s awesome. It’s teaching him right from the get go that it’s okay that everyone is so different. And there’s so much to learn from that. And not to mention the fact that he is fiercely proud of his Danish heritage as well. At some point in our lives, we learn to judge right from wrong and make that mean a good many different things. Mostly not productive nor in our best interests. Don’t get me wrong, having a healthy opinion is absolutely okay – but when it becomes harmful (such as racism), it helps no-one.
In our businesses we can believe all sorts of things. “I’m no good at sales”. “I don’t talk to other people very well.” “I can’t market.” “I’m not a business person.” No doubt you’ve heard it all. And at the end of the day – it’s all BS. All of it. Whatever story you have going on in your head is utter rubbish. Where did it come from in the first place? Probably from someone who has concluded about their own shortcomings and then tried to force those beliefs onto you. The beliefs weren’t even yours to begin with but yet for some reason, we choose to take them on. And worse, believe them to actually be true.
As an exercise, I want you to take a closely held belief that you know you’ve had for a while and let’s put it under the microscope. Does it serve you? Does it allow you to be the best version of you possible? Does it allow you to take the required actions to get you to where you really want to be? Scrutinizing your belief system in this way systematically – belief by belief – we can start to be confronted by the truth. For me, it was when I was 19 and I discovered I was a racist. I was raised by an incredibly racist Grandfather who lived through two World Wars and hated anything that looked remotely German or Asian. It was programmed into me at a very young age and I had no clue. Thankfully I learned sooner rather than later and actually questioned it and chose to suspend my judgement. These days my partner is not Australian and I have many friends’ and business associates from all over the world – including Germans and Asians! Now if I had chosen not to suspend my judgement and question my beliefs, God only knows where I would be now. Certainly not living the life I lead that is for sure.
There is an infinite world of pure potentiality out there. Think of the movie “Sliding Doors”. There are always more than one way to go in any situation. So once you can suspend your judgement about anything really and keep that field of infinite potentiality open, you start to actually see what is really possible. For you and for your life. It’s powerful stuff and I’m really not doing the concept much justice in a quick blog post. I encourage you to read more about this. It’s an incredibly empowering subject. If you really do believe that you are crap at talking to people, then you will keep acting that way and attracting people and situations that further solidify that belief. But if you suspend judgement on that, keep the field open, I bet you would literally shock yourself.
We are so much more capable and competent than we ever believe possible. You would be able to do things that would knock your socks off if you allowed yourself the opportunity. We see it all the time – people who are petrified of public speaking going on to become magnificent trainers from the stage. People who feel they can’t talk to anyone building massive Network Marketing businesses. And even my oldest son who is on the Autism Spectrum. He doesn’t believe he can read a book and yet he is currently studying IT and also learning to become a Pilot around two jobs. He is shocking himself as to what can be achieved when you simply suspend your judgement around something, keep the field of infinite potentiality open and be willing to step outside of the norm and do life differently. Try it for yourself and share with me what happens. I love this stuff. Think different in order to be different in order to live a different life. Go on, do it.