This morning I was on a training call that really spoke to me in this moment. And that is why I love mindset mastery work so much because usually the lesson arrives just as one needs it. I had a huge paradigm shift around how we don’t merely fear failure – we are more fearful of the low place we feel after the failure. It goes way beyond disappointment. Fear of failure isn’t just about falling on your face – it’s about the emotional dip that follows. That heavy, gut-punch moment when you think, “Seriously? After all that effort?” Cue the inner drama queen: “What was I thinking? Maybe I’m not cut out for this…”
Sound familiar? Welcome to the Club. For women who’ve spent decades in the corporate grind and are now breaking out to build something of their own, this fear isn’t just about failing – it’s about facing those emotional low points head-on without crumbling into a puddle of “should-haves.” Especially to not sit there for long.
Here’s the truth bomb: Those emotional dips? They’re not permanent. They’re pit stops, not destinations. The key? Learn to dance through them without letting them dictate your next move. It’s all how you frame it up.
Step One: Rewrite the Narrative
When things don’t go as planned, do you immediately turn your life into a soap opera? “I’m not good enough,” “What was I thinking?” or some other story that you make up. Well just stop. Hit the brakes. Failure isn’t the villain; it’s the tuition you pay to join the league of legends. Every stumble is proof you’re in the arena, throwing punches, not sitting in the cheap seats eating popcorn. You’re a player – never a spectator. And it’s spectators that don’t feel what you’re feeling so think about what you would prefer …
Next time you hit a snag, ask: What’s life teaching me here? This one question flips the script and hands you back the pen. Because the lessons there are always there – all you need to do is recognize them and be willing to course correct forward.
Step Two: Own the Feelings, Don’t Marinate in Them
Emotional dips suck. Period. But pretending they don’t exist? Worse. So let yourself feel all the feels – without turning it into a month-long pity party. Say it out loud: “This stings.” “I’m annoyed.” Then? Move on. Emotions are waves, not concrete. Ride them, don’t build your house on them.
Step Three: Remember Why You Started
When fear and the yuck emotions whisper, “What if you fail?” clap back with, “What if I never get started?” That emotional dip you’re terrified of? Temporary. The regret of not betting on yourself? That’s forever – and regrets are always super heavy. Your dreams aren’t random. They’re clues to your purpose. It’s the Universe/God/Spirit/Energy calling you to more. Don’t ignore them.
Step Four: Make Fear & Emotions Your Sidekick, Not Your Boss
Instead of obsessing over, “What if I fall?” ask, “What if this teaches me something epic?” Because spoiler alert: it will if you let it. The worst-case scenario usually comes wrapped with lessons that will build your empire. If you doubt this, think of Michael Jordan, Abraham Lincoln, Oprah Winfrey and many, many other success stories that trudged through unimaginable disappointment on their journeys.
Here’s the mic-drop moment: The goal isn’t to banish fear or avoid emotional lows. It’s to get so damn comfortable with them that they stop running the show. Let them ride shotgun if they must – but you’re the one driving this supercar.
Because the only real failure? Never daring to hit the gas in the first place. You’ve got this!
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